I feel like a dinosaur, but if you like products from yesteryear, you can grab a previous-generation Philips Pronto. I bought a "top-of-the-line" TSU7000 for $200 on EBay. Large color touch screen, enough hard buttons, and of course, the largest amount of user-based designs and IR codes. For another $150, you can get an RF extender for that remote.
I haven't been following remotes lately, and it seems that Prontos are not the craze of the moment, the way they used to be a few years ago, but I still like the product very much. The software is very flexible and there is so much art available to design your screens, you can do a whole system in a day with gorgeous graphics. None of the "buying into the activity/device paradigm". You can reprogram the interface 100% the way you want it.
I am not fond of the the Harmony remote (poor software). I haven't looked at the RTI/URC remotes. I like the fact that - at least on the previous generations - the Pronto stuff is fully accessible to the public and has a large user base, and nothing limited to installers (that's why I have an Elk as my alarm system too...).
Laurent