Where do you guys live that has all these weird rules
I'd have to say "What weird place do you live were they DON'T have these rules?"
Most jurisdictions in the US have adopted some version of the NEC/NFPA rules, as insurance companies tend to raise rates in locations that don't. Enforcement is a different subject. Generally, the greater the population density, the better the enforcement. It reminds me of a former neighbor who moved out to someplace west of the end of the world (AKA Arkansas). He drove into the county seat to inquire about a building permit, septic field permit, etc for a new house. The guy behind the counter said "Whyinhell would you need permits to build a house? It's your land isn't it?"
To expand slightly on something Peter said.
The "linked sounder" and "mains power with battery backup" requirements are for
new construction and major remodelling. They do not apply to existing houses (but are highly recommended).
If linked integral sounders are required by code, why do they make smoke detectors that do not have them?
Depends on were you are seeing them. Remember that Home Depot/Lowes and their ilk cater to the remodelling crowd and thus the new construction/major remodel rule would not apply. If you are adding or replacing a smoke detector in an existing house, then you really can't link the units (unless they are already linked). I did notice recently though, that HD had some replacement smoke detectors that were linked by rf, so an older house could be easily updated to the linked sounder spec.
As for the "weird" rules, the first time I heard about them I also said "What idiot came up with this $#%^@$ rule?" However, they actually make sense after you sit down and work them through. Mains power --> becuase people habitually forget to change the batteries. Linked sounders --> so you aren't sleeping at one end of the house while the other end is shooting flames 30 ft into the air. And etc.