I don't want to seem like some jerk that pops in and recommends a Lexus or Mercedes (I drive neither).
If a friend asked me for a recommendation, first I'd say save your money and only automate what you plan to use. I would not put an automated switch everywhere in the house but in strategic locations to improve the life of the occupants as well as strategically placed in the front of the house for security purposes. And related to a specific lighting technology, UPB would be it based on MY READING ON THIS SITE. As someone mentioned, lighting is not an area you want to have reliability issues. I would likely use Zwave or Zigbee for locks or thermostats and so I would strategically locate some Zwve or Zigbee wall outlets to ensure a solid mesh of the network.
To determine how you might use lighting here are some use cases that I have so far with switches only in my kitchen, garage, master bedroom, and master bath and a motion sensor in the garage I have a few more switches to install but I haven't had the time. These use cases use the Lutron RadioRa 2 system and I have the CQC home automation software added in.
* Enter the garage from the back door and the garage light turns on via motion sensor. Also turns off the lights after a set amount of time without motion (used to annoy me to come home after many hours away to see garage light left on for no good reason)
* Turn on the back door light at sunset and off at sunrise
* If night, turn on kitchen pendants when entering the garage (setup w CQC)
* If the kitchen main light is turned on, check to see if other kitchen lights are on and turn them off (CQC)
* If the kitchen pendants are turned on, turn off the main kitchen light if on (CQC)
* Pico remote next to bed to turn off master bedroom light (CQC to use middle button to turn on/off master bath night light)
Just this handful of light switches and settings has made a difference in our lives and my wife still comments on how she likes this or that. I will soon add more but haven't felt a need yet. Also, some of these things I come up with after living with it and realizing I have an option. Like the other day I was in the kitchen and noticed the main kitchen light was on with the kitchen pendants, which is a redundant waste of energy. I logged into CQC and setup a trigger so that only one or the other would be on but not both. That wasn't a scenario I thought of just a few weeks ago.
Hope this helps.
David